Every Girl's Guide To Heartache

I recently bought books for me and my sisters to read. They are teenagers and they are asking me a lot of questions lately so I decided to find books that they can read and would make them understand the things they are going through. This books are written by Filipino authors so they can really relate to the characters (Filipino psyche).

The one I recently finish is authored by Marla Miniano - Every Girl's Guide to Heartache. And I'm sharing the 10 rules she enumerates so that any big sister out there who have a lil sis whose going through this, let them read this - this might be useful. But this is not limited to teens really, anybody who is currently suffering from a heartache can learn something out of this book.

Here goes the 10 rules:

1. Find comfort in your family. - Self explanatory.
2. It's okay to NOT be okay. - Common mistake we all have when we are broken hearted is that we pretend that we are okay even if we are not. News flash, it's okay to admit that you are not okay in fact you will feel so much better if you accept this truth. Also, people around you must realize that they should allow you to grieve, cry and what not. Comments such as: it is his loss, you'll find someone better and the like are so unsolicited.
3. Know that despite your heartbreak, the world revolves without you - and does not revolve around you. - Life goes on even if you don't want to live anymore. It won't wait till you are okay (it won't wait for you, period).
4. Cut off all forms of communication with the Ex. - Common mistake I should say that most girls (and myself is no exception) commits. If you want to moved on in the truest essence of moving on, cut all forms of communication. Don't be silly and think that you can be friends again when she traded you, betrayed you and what not behind your back. Sooo fairytale. Talk to him again if you are really sure you can handle it.
5. Realize that anger is a waste of time. - You are allowed to be angry at certain point but being angry forever to that person will get you nowhere. Not only it is a waste of time but also a waste of energy. Instead of being angry and planning for that vengeance why not invest your energy in putting up the pieces together. That way you will be more productive.
6. Distract yourself. - Breakup can be messy, so distract yourself. Go out with friends and do the things you want to do, may it be shopping or anything at all that will distract you, but no getting wasted in a party included -that is not the distraction I'm referring here, just to be clear on that one. Healthy ways not destructive ones.
7. Go easy on the next guy. - Ahhh, don't rush it when you are not ready. Don't look for Mr. Rebound. Don't make that futile mistake.
8. Watch out for the aftershock. Got really nothing to say on this one.
9. Know that you are not alone. - Yep, find solace in the knowledge that you are not alone. That somewhere in this Milky Way, somebody also just broke up with the love of her life.
10. Just live. - Just live because life isn't fair but it is still good. Life shouldn't be a bed of roses because that would be boring and pains such as a heartaches are one of those things that makes this life one hell of a ride. Life does not end when circumstances change, when relationship fails, when people leave, when hearts break, when someone stops loving you or when someone refuses to love you in the first place.

An interesting read really. Funny, cute and really suited for teens. Now my sisters can read them since I'm done reading it. Wink**